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  • I felt the same way. Also have a history of depression, your post resonates with me.

    The main thing I discovered is the difference between life-giving activities and life-draining activities. As a new parent, I felt guilty that I didn’t have the energy for some hobbies and gravitated to others. Things can be enjoyable but also leave you feeling drained–those are the things that will probably need to be on hold for a while. Once my kids got to school age, my energy levels changed dramatically and I’m now starting to get back into some of those things again.









  • It’s perfectly valid to have preferences on both presented gender and genitalia. Some people only prefer masculine or feminine presentation but are good with whatever hardware; others care less about presentation but have strong preferences on what a partner is packing. Others care about both, others are good with whatever.

    Where someone might need to be tactful is if they prefer someone whose genetalia is opposite of that typically possessed by that gender. There’s nothing inherently wrong with that preference, but trans folks have been fetishized and objectivized in the past, and anyone with those preferences would need to be particularly sensitive to that.










  • Linux runs on almost anything these days. I’ve installed Mint on Lenovos, Dells, and HPs without issue (even media keys all worked out of the box). As others have suggested, I’d probably look into used business workstations from the last five years to ensure you’ll get a solid five to ten years out of it.