Dunno how else to call it. Got me a job. It’s not a bad job. I like the work I do, I tolerate the people there, the hours are not long, it’s unionised so they can’t harrass me when I’m off the clock, it pays the bills I got.
… But god damn. Once I’m home I lack the drive to do literally anything.
I’ve stopped going to gym, I often eat junk cuz I just don’t wanna cook, even my hobbies are being left to gather dust. After working my 9-to-5 I just wanna lie down and rot until it’s work time again.
So the question is, how do the better-adjusted adults handle this?
Maybe you’re a morning person. Wake up and do all your important stuff in the mornings and be lazy at night.
My neighbour doesn’t even go inside when she comes back from work, she parks her car, ditches her bag in the bike shed, hops on her bicycle and tears off into the distance. I’ve seen her on her racing bike in a suit.
So, don’t give yourself the chance to veg out, do something on the way back home or go for a walk before you go in?
Work out in the morning or integrate exercise into your commute: I ride a bike to work (shoutout to [email protected]) and walk everywhere I can. Depending on where you work, you might even be able to get in some body weight exercises, light cardio, etc. between stuff. Do it in little bursts whenever you can, every little bit helps!
Keep in mind also you cannot out-exercise a bad diet, so try to eat healthy nutritious meals as opposed to fast food trash. Cut out beer and soda too. Doing this lost me probably 30-40 lbs, and I’m not quite back in fighting form but I’m doing better that I was a few years ago for sure.
Pure fucking willpower, don’t let yourself sit down when you get home right away.
work less hours, if you can’t afford to work less hours…then you should be figuring how
For me I usually position my exercise routine before work. The cardio allows me to think and generally function better throughout my work day, like my version of caffeine.
But yeah I don’t have time to do anything else in that few hours before work begins.
After work is exercise, which you need anyway, but it also shakes off the doldrums and provides a clean break between work and evening
If you find the secret, pass it along
Don’t go home from work. Go to a place to do the thing from work instead.
The secret is simple. What you do for money isn’t what or who you are. 8 hours of work. 8 hours of sleep. (Unconscious body resting sleep) That leaves as many hours per day you spend working as you could spend doing anything you are able to facilitate. Problem is, if your 8 hours of work is debilitating to the point it owns the other 66% of your time then you need a new 9 to 5 or at least find peace with what it is you do for money.
Or you have depression. If that’s the case I feel for you, and I know you got this.
D d d d d d d d d d depression
That leaves as many hours per day you spend working as you could spend doing anything you are able to facilitate.
No commutes?
No chores ? Like laundry, dishes, cleaning, shopping etc…
$100,000 a year in passive income
Ahh, the “small loan of a million dollars” approach. I always forget about Daddy’s money!
Quit, then nothing is post work because everything is.
You only need to cook one day a week to have good meals.
Make a whole roast chicken on Sunday. You can have that bird all week. Ceasar salad with chicken; chicken tacos, chicken sandwich.
Get a big pot and make a giant stew. Freeze it in pint size containers. Right now I’ve got chili and lentil soup sitting in the freezer, waiting to be nuked.
Keep plenty of fresh fruit and quality cheese on hand. An apple with some sharp cheddar is a great snack.
Angel hair pasta takes about five minutes to cook; put any sauce you like on it.
You don’t have to go to the gym to stay fit.
Use this manual, 15 minutes a day.
https://leisureguy.ca/wp-content/uploads/2023/07/rcaf_xbx_5bx_exercise_plans_text.pdf
Recently lost my wife and my whole life feels like this listlessness you describe. Some suggestions people have made.
Plan out an hour after work to do something even if it means not driving home for an hour and going and doing something. This one works for me.
Do all your extra work on the weekend when you have the energy. Laundry and cleaning the house fit in here.
Plan out and prepare your metals for the work week on the weekend. Its only 5 meals. Cook two big meals and portion out the extras as leftovers in frozen containers then make an extra small meal that is either quick to cook or precooked or frozen meal from store. You now have three meal variety you can pick to quickly cook during the week after work. This works for me as the variety makes me feel like I have a good selection to pick from and if I buy some junk otw home I can eat the extra on the weekend.
Force yourself to exercise for at least 20m every other day. A hard sweaty workout! Just fucking do it no matter what. I do this in morning before shower.
Life still fucking sucks and I hate it… But its better than it was and gets better day to day. You just have to do it.
That’s really what it all comes down to and the only real advise. Just do it. Pick one and do it for two weeks. Then add one more and do it with the first one for the next two week. And repeat. They say it takes two to three weeks to build a routine. At some point it will feel weird to NOT do it… But it takes time and energy. So just fucking do it because its not going to magically get better on its own.
Just do it already.
Sorry for your loss. Thank you for the inspiring words.
Sorry for your loss. I admire your strength.
I admire your strength and perseverance.
Your story is inspiring, and I’m really sorry you’re going through this. Rooting for you
Sorry for your loss, mate
And thanks for the advice. Even if right now I want to make sad animal noises at the idea of “just doing it”.
Baby steps. Just pick one small thing and do it… I say this as I fight against “just do it” myself… Its so fucking hard. I get it. But again. It wont fix itself magically.
Yeah, and once you get going it’s easier to keep going because of momentum
Sorry for your loss, man. If you need someone to talk to, about anything, send me a message.
Human beings are the only Great Ape that works for more than a few hours a day.
It isn’t healthy, and we weren’t built to labor 40hrs a week for basic survival.
What you are feeling is a natural response to being overworked.
I take a shower then I lay on a yoga mat and listen to a funny podcast like tigerbelly or bad friends for ~30 minutes depending how the day went. Sometimes I plan out what to do for dinner on the drive home, sonetimes in the morning, sometimes the day before, sometimes I plan it out during mat time and do some light stretches. My shoulders and pelvis are chronically tight from stress. Maybe have a drink in the shower before laying down but maybe don’t incorporate that
I can vouch that a shower beer often brings my energy back post shower.
Get off the crack. No social media, gaming, or serie etc.
Get fucking bored and you’ll wanna do something that’s worth doing (in your POV)
I’m leaning more and more towards this.
The other week, a guy in a fantasy football rage thread had a similar take, and put it so good I had to screenshot and save it.
I’ll tell you what worked for me: Doing everything before work instead. Get up at 4am instead of 7 and go to bed at 7pm instead of 10.
At the very minimum, gym in the morning (but after coffee/caffeine, plus the time for it to kick in) is the enlightened way. It helps if your gym is nearby or you have a [email protected] .
I personally also use the wee morning hours to reconcile my financial accounts, since ACH transactions in the USA will generally process a day faster if submitted before 10:30 ET.
This is MADNESS
THIS IS SPARTA!!! Kicks
My schedule changes frequently. On days i start at a normal time i tend to get things done in the mornings. Days i start early i get stuff done after work. I find the best trick for getting stuff done after work is to start right away. Even sitting for just 5 minutes can be detrimental to my motivation.
Part of what helps motivate me is in my area electricity is cheapest between 7pm and 7am. So i try to do things like laundry early in the morning and i try not to use my computer much until after 7pm. Even my wifi is often off during daytime hours (i live alone and work away from home). I know the savings are minor, but i find that extra financial incentive is all i need sometimes to wash the dishes at 6:30 pm and relax afterwards.
Yeaaah, doing this would mean the death of anything I enjoy outside of work and the wife and kids.
OP is already failing to do anything outside of work and sleep. Desperate measures.
Fair.
God I wish I got up at 7. I’m already at work for a half hour.
