I don’t have a real solution, but for me I just try to be exceptionally mindful of precisely what you already described. On my way home I try to think of a few productive things I could possibly muster before compromising/collapsing back into idleness

Pure fucking willpower, don’t let yourself sit down when you get home right away.

If you find the secret, pass it along

Quit, then nothing is post work because everything is.

You only need to cook one day a week to have good meals.

Make a whole roast chicken on Sunday. You can have that bird all week. Ceasar salad with chicken; chicken tacos, chicken sandwich.

Get a big pot and make a giant stew. Freeze it in pint size containers. Right now I’ve got chili and lentil soup sitting in the freezer, waiting to be nuked.

Keep plenty of fresh fruit and quality cheese on hand. An apple with some sharp cheddar is a great snack.

Angel hair pasta takes about five minutes to cook; put any sauce you like on it.

You don’t have to go to the gym to stay fit.

Use this manual, 15 minutes a day.

https://leisureguy.ca/wp-content/uploads/2023/07/rcaf_xbx_5bx_exercise_plans_text.pdf

Recently lost my wife and my whole life feels like this listlessness you describe. Some suggestions people have made.

Plan out an hour after work to do something even if it means not driving home for an hour and going and doing something. This one works for me.

Do all your extra work on the weekend when you have the energy. Laundry and cleaning the house fit in here.

Plan out and prepare your metals for the work week on the weekend. Its only 5 meals. Cook two big meals and portion out the extras as leftovers in frozen containers then make an extra small meal that is either quick to cook or precooked or frozen meal from store. You now have three meal variety you can pick to quickly cook during the week after work. This works for me as the variety makes me feel like I have a good selection to pick from and if I buy some junk otw home I can eat the extra on the weekend.

Force yourself to exercise for at least 20m every other day. A hard sweaty workout! Just fucking do it no matter what. I do this in morning before shower.

Life still fucking sucks and I hate it… But its better than it was and gets better day to day. You just have to do it.

That’s really what it all comes down to and the only real advise. Just do it. Pick one and do it for two weeks. Then add one more and do it with the first one for the next two week. And repeat. They say it takes two to three weeks to build a routine. At some point it will feel weird to NOT do it… But it takes time and energy. So just fucking do it because its not going to magically get better on its own.

Just do it already.

I take a shower then I lay on a yoga mat and listen to a funny podcast like tigerbelly or bad friends for ~30 minutes depending how the day went. Sometimes I plan out what to do for dinner on the drive home, sonetimes in the morning, sometimes the day before, sometimes I plan it out during mat time and do some light stretches. My shoulders and pelvis are chronically tight from stress. Maybe have a drink in the shower before laying down but maybe don’t incorporate that

I’ll tell you what worked for me: Doing everything before work instead. Get up at 4am instead of 7 and go to bed at 7pm instead of 10.

Personally my biggest hurdle is getting started on something. When I get home I NEVER feel like drawing, but if I sit down and force myself to start I slowly get more energy and focus.

I deal with this on and off myself. You have to find a way to get back to your old health habits, and create a schedule that allows you to do that. It sucks, because making time like that with your job is designed to be impossible, but you have no hope of ever feeling better if you have to work 8 hours a day or whatever AND you feel like crap because you are eating junk, not exercising, getting no sleep etc.

I’m in this picture and I don’t like it.

On a more serious note, I feel the same.

Don’t get me wrong, I actually do like my job. I’m working with people I like, I like what I’m actually doing, and I’m not waking up with dread every (or really, any) morning. I can’t even complain because I’m getting paid well, great benefits, tons of time off (so much in fact that my manager had to force me to take Fridays off until EOY just so I use up my base rate PTOs), great bonus situation, lots of options to travel, management is generally good as well.

But every single day, I just feel exhausted after work. Even when I’m WFH, or have little actually exhausting tasks to do… I’m just exhausted. Tired. No energy for anything but running a quick bath, or shower, reading for an hour or two, then sleeping.

In fact this lack of energy has been so bad recently that I’ve taken to inserting a workout+cooking+everythingelse hour in the middle of my WFH days just so things get done.

If you’ve started this job recently, that sounds completely normal, at least to my neurodivergent ears.

You’re learning how to ride a bike, except it doesn’t require so much physical practice as mental practice. You’re putting in a lot of mental effort all day every day, and it’s exhausting. For me, this period at a new job can last three to six months, sometimes more. Eventually, you get the hang of it, and you don’t have to put in nearly as much mental effort to do your job well. Then you can get back to your other life shit.

Consider you might be depressed. Professional help could be in order. No shame in seeking help.

It might be worth it to try a 10min power nap after work and see if that helps.

I go pretty much straight from work to yoga, make supper at a civilized hour afterwards, and take Wednesdays off workouts to, as you say, flop.

Gardening I do in the morning before work.

Cooking I do because others depend on me, that’s been true for 30 years now, before that I didn’t remember to eat, just when hungry. Don’t keep junk in the house if it tempts you, make your easy stuff healthier. Hummus, boil eggs on the weekends so you have those, fruit, bagged salad greens, make it easier to eat nutritious food.

I want to say suck it up and go to the gym, you will be glad you did. 9-5 is pretty nice hours, here it’s 8-5 or 9-6. Exercise is one non-negotiable for me. I have gotten up at 5 to run when that was the only option, and have gone to the gym at 20:30 after night classes after work when that was the only option. You will feel better if you just GO and work out even if you don’t want to.

Habit>willpower. Commit to 6 weeks, and by then your schedule will probably settle out. Personally I put exercise ahead of healthy eating because I know my body.