She was an amazing person. She sacrificed everything for her family. She didn’t date, do drugs, or drink. Instead she spent all of her time raising and supporting her 2 sons. I’ve never seen a parent sacrifice so much for their kids. She was always working, always doing something productive. I’m nothing like that. I know that I couldn’t sacrifice that much so I’ll never have kids myself. I do try to lift people up as much as possible though. I have a lot of pain and darkness, but I always try to bring people up or help people whenever I have the chance. I especially like to encourage people to follow their dreams and embrace their passions, because I know how empty life is if you ignore that part of yourself. I love music. Whenever I’m not at work, I’m practicing an instrument, singing, writing, or studying music. Adults often give up the things they love even if they don’t have kids and I like to encourage people to find themselves again.
I love people like her. She reminds me of my cousin. The level of dedication to the wellbeing of her kids is unreal to me.
Deciding not to have children, because we can’t meet some ideals, seems a common trait with childhood trauma. I didn’t have a maliciously abusive upbringing, but a neglectful one. My siblings and I also have strong feelings against having kids.
You are a good person to encourage getting passion back into people’s lives. There are too many of us who feel like we are those nested matryoshka dolls; a shell of a shell, of a shell, with our passions replaced by empty depression.
I’ve seen far too many parents do the opposite. They have kids to use them for one reason or another or they completely regret having them and neglect them or abuse them. It was amazing to see a person who truly understood the weight of a parent’s responsibility and I’m glad there are others like her out there. I hope your cousin has a long, happy life because she definitely deserves it.
Definitely. Most of my siblings will never have kids either. 2 of them did end up having 1 each accidentally. They both do their best to try deal with their problems and still try to be good parents. We talk about it sometimes. Some of the things we went through just seem unreal so long after the fact. I doubt they will have more kids. It’s tough enough just existing on your own right now. The world seems like it’s on fire and people are stressed and struggling. The future looks extremely dark. I couldn’t even imagine trying to raise a child even without trauma. Did you and your siblings ever go to therapy to try to work through that trauma?
I appreciate that. I think it’s one of the most important things you can do for yourself. When you are doing something you love and you really throw yourself into it you will feel more confident and comfortable with yourself. I know exactly how that feels. I’ve tried telling friends and partners that I felt empty inside before, but they never really understood and it just made me feel like I had to suffer alone. I’m doing better now, but I don’t feel completely like myself. Sometimes when I look in the mirror I don’t recognize the person there if that makes sense.
She was an amazing person. She sacrificed everything for her family. She didn’t date, do drugs, or drink. Instead she spent all of her time raising and supporting her 2 sons. I’ve never seen a parent sacrifice so much for their kids. She was always working, always doing something productive. I’m nothing like that. I know that I couldn’t sacrifice that much so I’ll never have kids myself. I do try to lift people up as much as possible though. I have a lot of pain and darkness, but I always try to bring people up or help people whenever I have the chance. I especially like to encourage people to follow their dreams and embrace their passions, because I know how empty life is if you ignore that part of yourself. I love music. Whenever I’m not at work, I’m practicing an instrument, singing, writing, or studying music. Adults often give up the things they love even if they don’t have kids and I like to encourage people to find themselves again.
I love people like her. She reminds me of my cousin. The level of dedication to the wellbeing of her kids is unreal to me.
Deciding not to have children, because we can’t meet some ideals, seems a common trait with childhood trauma. I didn’t have a maliciously abusive upbringing, but a neglectful one. My siblings and I also have strong feelings against having kids.
You are a good person to encourage getting passion back into people’s lives. There are too many of us who feel like we are those nested matryoshka dolls; a shell of a shell, of a shell, with our passions replaced by empty depression.
I’ve seen far too many parents do the opposite. They have kids to use them for one reason or another or they completely regret having them and neglect them or abuse them. It was amazing to see a person who truly understood the weight of a parent’s responsibility and I’m glad there are others like her out there. I hope your cousin has a long, happy life because she definitely deserves it.
Definitely. Most of my siblings will never have kids either. 2 of them did end up having 1 each accidentally. They both do their best to try deal with their problems and still try to be good parents. We talk about it sometimes. Some of the things we went through just seem unreal so long after the fact. I doubt they will have more kids. It’s tough enough just existing on your own right now. The world seems like it’s on fire and people are stressed and struggling. The future looks extremely dark. I couldn’t even imagine trying to raise a child even without trauma. Did you and your siblings ever go to therapy to try to work through that trauma?
I appreciate that. I think it’s one of the most important things you can do for yourself. When you are doing something you love and you really throw yourself into it you will feel more confident and comfortable with yourself. I know exactly how that feels. I’ve tried telling friends and partners that I felt empty inside before, but they never really understood and it just made me feel like I had to suffer alone. I’m doing better now, but I don’t feel completely like myself. Sometimes when I look in the mirror I don’t recognize the person there if that makes sense.