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Cake day: April 8th, 2026

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  • The advice is that you have to.

    Dramatically stated: You have to or you are going to die.
    (Disclaimer: Not from this, probably, but eventually. And if you don’t do this, by the time you die, then you won’t have done it. You’ll have missed the opportunity.)

    Your body doesn’t make dopamine the way neurotypical bodies do. You won’t get satisfaction from the usual motivators. Create your own satisfaction by taking the time to think about how doing something will increase satisfaction. Give it at least 20 seconds. The taps on the neurotransmitters take a bit to warm up. Maybe take a few moments to savor the same thing at different times to reinforce and remind yourself why doing things is worth it.
    Focus on what’s achievable, and what small actions you can take to get there. Don’t get mired in thought, but instead give your effort to the actions you can take. Don’t compare your progress to others.

    I also often “Forrest Gump” myself through things when it starts to feel like a slog. ‘I’ve come this far. I might as well keep going.’
    This is easier for things that have an endpoint, like a degree or long project. You can’t unwind time that you’ve spent on something, but can waste that time by not finishing. Not finishing offers way less dopamine than finishing.














  • Are you referring to the 2022 bombing of a maternity hospital in Mariupol, the 2024 bombing of a maternity hospital in Kyiv, or the 2025 attacks against children’s hospitals in Kherson, Kharkiv, Kamianske, and Odessa? (These are just the results from the first page of search results.)

    Or are you referring to Russia literally stealing Ukrainian children from their families to try to erase their culture?

    I say those things to say this: We can all pretend to be stupid when it suits us. I know you weren’t thinking of Ukrainian children. It suits me right now to ensure those examples are fresh on your mind.

    The game of politics is still being played even if you chose to make moves that didn’t contribute strategically. The U.S. system is not democratic, and unless it is reformed, voters must compromise their morals to achieve some of their aims. It sucks, but it’s the reality.
    You made a call. You thought it was the most moral thing you could do at the time.

    Rather than attack your past decisions, or try to convince you to see things from my worldview — I want to ask if you could go back in time and explain the current state of the world to yourself do you think you would make the same voting decisions again?