How do I join, I am so frustrated now because you are wasting my time. First it says I need a invite, then I think ok maybe if I create an account on lemmy.world. Then I do that and try but am being asked for a instance. All I know is I am trying to join https://lemmy.world/c/autism but now very much suspecting that this community will be unmoderated and hostile as well given how many tricks you have been using. Communities are either unmoderated or moderated but apply unwritten rules.
I dont understand what instance to issue. I appreciate your trying to help me. I was having a panic and getting sad and overwhelmed. I can understand if matrix is decentralized but beyond that I have not researched it so I dont know what Instance I am on or what to put there.
“your instance” is where you made your account, so lemmy.world
take a breather and come back to it later, the place will still be here :)