I know you’re Cptn. Aggravated and certainly act that way.
But.
To everyone reading along.
There is a difference in asking for a fuckbuddy and asking for a long term relationship. It is OK to ask for one or the other. It’s OK to change your goals later.
Learning to communicate your desires (and acknowledging you were bad at it earlier) is more difficult than one might think, but can be learned.
Learning to communicate what steps you expect to happen when - even harder.
Biological compatibility is a thing. Learning what your type of woman or man looks like also takes time. Maybe discovering you like one sex better than the other. Compatibility is also unreliable if your fucking hormones decide to throw you around every month. It’s even worse if you take additional hormones for birth control.
I was on my seventh partner when they were like “you know I like to be kissed and cuddled right now. But next week I expect to be super horny and I love [censored sentence], be prepared…” I was like: Communicating like that is an option? You are allowed to do that? Finding your own style and communication in a realtionship is important. I wasn’t a good communicator in that way and my relationships were more mid than they could have been as a result.
I know you’re Cptn. Aggravated and certainly act that way. But.
To everyone reading along. There is a difference in asking for a fuckbuddy and asking for a long term relationship. It is OK to ask for one or the other. It’s OK to change your goals later.
Learning to communicate your desires (and acknowledging you were bad at it earlier) is more difficult than one might think, but can be learned.
Learning to communicate what steps you expect to happen when - even harder.
Biological compatibility is a thing. Learning what your type of woman or man looks like also takes time. Maybe discovering you like one sex better than the other. Compatibility is also unreliable if your fucking hormones decide to throw you around every month. It’s even worse if you take additional hormones for birth control.
I was on my seventh partner when they were like “you know I like to be kissed and cuddled right now. But next week I expect to be super horny and I love [censored sentence], be prepared…” I was like: Communicating like that is an option? You are allowed to do that? Finding your own style and communication in a realtionship is important. I wasn’t a good communicator in that way and my relationships were more mid than they could have been as a result.