Backing all these comments that say it’s about communication. If I found out my partner has been selling nudes, hiding it from me, and also hiding the money? An unforgivable betrayal of my trust and our relationship. If he came to me beforehand and we discussed it and the money went towards our mutual goals, it would at least be something I’d consider.

The whole point is not hiding it from your partner. Discuss things before you do them.

Conservative rural Christianity. It’s fine to be gay as long as no one ever knows about it.

Well the man is the head of the house, you see. So what he says goes. Even if what he says involves lifetime psychological damage!

To be somewhat fair to my mother, most of the worst stuff he ever said to me was when she wasn’t around. To this day I don’t know if she knew a lot of it. At the time he assured me that was he said came from both of them, and since I’d never seen her stand up to him for us, I had no reason to doubt it.

I was given a very specific (but non-inclusive) list of people I was not allowed to bring home. That included any and all women, naturally, but also included any and all men of any colour darker than germanic-european-white, and indeed any men of a religion other than young-earth-creationists.

Breaking any of these rules while still living in the house would have meant my expulsion from the house. I’d like to say my mom wouldn’t have allowed him to kick me out but I really don’t know.

What

Exactly why I never came out to my parents. I think they knew, since my stepfather would semi regularly tell me that if I came out as gay he would kick me out of the house.

Jokes on him, he’s dead now and I’m still bisexual.