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  • You describe the ex friend as pressuring you to dump you (in the past) to dump your (at the time) bf and date him instead. This is a person who doesn’t respect your agency or value your happiness.

    It’s possible he could be a pleasant experience for a little while, but it wouldn’t last. He wants to be with you not because he believes he can make you happy–that is the foundation of a worthwhile relationship.

    Rather, he wants to be with you because he has fantasies about the person he imagines you are. He doesn’t care about who you are, if he did he would care about the relationship you were in and would care about your choice to be in it. He “cares” about who he imagines you are, his fantasy girl who wants him enough to leave her partner. If he were to find out you’re a person, a human person who doesn’t idolize him, the target of his fantasies would change.















  • FromPieces@lemmygrad.mltoAsklemmy@lemmy.mlWhy is NPD so stigmatized?
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    3 months ago

    OP: “god, it’s hard being a paraplegic and trying to run…”

    You: “guys, don’t listen to this asshole, being a paraplegic means you can’t run. If this person were actually NPD, it would be an extremely positive sign for them to seek to improve themselves and since we can see this person trying to improve themselves, they are clearly lying and manipulative. Classic NPD.”

    Log off and touch grass. You can come back when the stench of your self righteous diarrhea of the mouth fades.


  • FromPieces@lemmygrad.mltoAsklemmy@lemmy.mlWhy is NPD so stigmatized?
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    3 months ago

    I think you raise a very valuable point here. “Narcissist” is so often used simply as a label for the villain with no consideration for the terms use as a medical diagnosis.

    In your case, you may be labeled a narcissist but you make a continual conscious effort to account for the weaknesses implicit in that diagnosis. This is different from the vitriolic insult so often used to condemn people.

    This is a failure on our part, in the way we use the term. You may be (technically) a narcissist, but, you are not “evil” in the way that others popularly labeled “narcissists” are. You are a good person.