Trash Panda

I like to dig through trash.

I have a shitty website, feel free to take a look. https://raccoonden.moe/

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Cake day: October 17th, 2021

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  • While I am posting from a lemmy account (because I didn’t know about kbin when I made it) if I was to host one of the two it would be kbin. The reason is that lemmy has some hardcoded moderation things inside it that I disapprove of. I believe I should be able to say anything I want without fear of being censored on my own self hosted instance and this comes from a leftist, I don’t want to use bad words to insult people, but if I want to use them in a different context I want to be able to. If I see an argument between a bigot and a fellow lgbtq and the bigot calls my comrade with a slur I want to be able to describe the situation using the exact words used. I think maybe it’s a cultural difference thing, where I live using slurs in a context where we describe a situation rather than for insulting someone it’s not seen as a bad thing. We don’t give those words so much power and importance to the point that even just saying the words makes people gasp. I believe that censoring some words by default without even considering the context they are being used in doesn’t help, I believe it just gives the words more power while we should aim to take power away from them.

    Also kbin has a much prettier UI in my opinion.



  • I’ll offer the other side of the coin just to give more food for thoughts, but I will also add that unlike OP I believe a phone call or a polite text would be enough: Should someone ghost in the name of safety, when a dangerous person would still look for you in person anyway or should they consider the feelings of someone they don’t like just because they don’t know they are a decent human being?

    I understand where you’re coming from, but a phone call or a message will keep you safe from a beating or being yelled at, homeboy starts yelling? Block the number. If you ghost someone they might still get really angry and look for you in person, maybe I’m ignorant and stupid but I don’t see a lot of extra safety in ghosting unless we assume that to tell someone you’re not interested you have to do it in person.

    If you ghost someone there is a chance you avoid their anger, a chance. But there’s also 100% certainty that you’re going to hurt someone’s feelings. Not to mention I do believe that’s not the only cause, there’s definitely people that ghost because they just don’t care about the other person.