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Cake day: June 26th, 2023

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  • Diapers ain’t shit.

    I actually meant stop using them. I had an internal, unrational fear for when our first stopped using diapers. And when the time came, it was really easy for us.

    But on the topic of grossness, one really gets desensitized. When they start eating real food, it starts smelling like real poop and you get used to real fast.


  • I find ChatGPT to sometimes be excellent at giving me a direction, if not outright solving the problem, when I paste errors I’m to lazy to look search. I say sometimes because othertimes it is just dead wrong.

    All code I ask ChatGPT to write is usually along the lines for “I have these values that I need to verify, write code that verifies that nothing is empty and saves an error message for each that is” and then I work with the code it gives me from there. I never take it at face value.

    Have you actually found that to be the case in anything complex though?

    I think that using LLMs to create complex code is the wrong use of the tool. They are better at providing structure to work from rather than writing the code itself (unless it is something simple as above) in my opinion.

    If a company cannot invest even a day to go through their hiring process and AI proof it, then they have a shitty hiring process. And with a shitty hiring process, you get shitty devs.

    I agree with you on that.




  • I think that LLMs just made it easier for people who want to know but not learn to know. Reading all those posts all over the internet required you to understand what you pasted together if you wanted it to work (not always but the barr was higher). With ChatGPT, you can just throw errors at it until you have the code you want.

    While the requirements never changed, the tools sure did and they made it a lot easier to not understand.



  • Each year is easier in my experience. When they can move, they are less frustrated because they can get to want they want. When they can talk, they don’t need to shout in order to tell you that they are hungry. When they can reason, you can explain how you are thinking.

    What really helped us early on was routines. For our first child, we wrote down when she slept and when she ate. Eventually, she would cry and we would look at the clock and realise “its time for food”. And that transitioned into learning that we need to make lunch now because she will be hungry soon.

    Also, removing the diper was a way less scary affair than I though it would be.



  • I’ve heard it said before that having your own and seeing someone elses’ children is not the same, the whole “you cannot understand until you have your own yada yada”.
    As a parent myself, I would never recommend anyone to have kids who really don’t want it. It’s okay to never want to see a child again, if that is was you want. I love being a parent but that is my experience and my life.

    If you are fine as it is now, then there is not need to change it. What should matter to you is that you are happy, not someone else.