• Imgonnatrythis@sh.itjust.works
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    11 days ago

    How many of you reflexively made assumptions about which one was the taxi driver? I did, and didn’t even realize it until I saw this in my feed a second time. Pretty messed up.

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      11 days ago

      I did. Because guy on the left (from camera pov) looks very excited like he’s a regular and guy on the right looks a bit apprehensive and has this “serious” face, looks like being tired after a long day of work.

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        10 days ago

        Different perspective: Man on the in blue/black is having fun on his first ever day in a theme park, man in pink is already used to the ride and is just routinely relaxing in theme parks after work because he got an annual pass one time.

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        9 days ago

        Exactly that. My gut instinct was based on a low level harmless racism, but not a single detail backs up the opposite.

        Could still be wrong who knows. Could also be neither and “guy makes shit up for a youtube video” is true. Also could be “guy used photocopy to mockup a pretend youtube video for upvotes”.

        I’ll never know because im about to scroll on and forget this ever happened.

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      11 days ago

      Yes? Nothing is wrong having a reflex notion, that’s normal. What’s wrong is if you let that notion dicate how you treat them. Crackhead Kennedy gets more respect then the taxi driver that works 16 hrs a day. One is not loke the other.

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      11 days ago

      Fucking same. “Hurr the browner one must be the taxi driver durr.” Gross. What a weird thing for my brain to think! Anyway, I guess that just happens sometimes with brains.

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        9 days ago

        It’s not really a gross thing, it’s actually fairly common that a lot of minorities choose to be taxi drivers because it’s a job and oftentimes is a business that they can start for fairly inexpensive and unlike most white people they’re willing to work the long hours that it takes to actually make it work. I’ve known several guys that were taxi drivers and almost every single one of them were of various races not white. Nothing wrong with understanding the oftentimes people choose those jobs because of the circumstances surrounding the way society is.

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          9 days ago

          Browner skin == subservient while lighter skin == master. That’s the gross part. I’m glad you know that few stereotypes were cut from whole cloth, though.

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              9 days ago

              I think we’re in agreement that it was a gross thought for my brain to generate?? Not sure why you’re being such a dick, but go off ig

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    11 days ago

    Reach out and spend wads of money on someone. Its cool he did that but this assumes this is a sustainable means of making friends and it just isn’t.

    US society is simply not structured in a way for adults to naturally make friends and it verges on being outright antagonistic to making close friends.

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      11 days ago

      I wouldn’t read it too literally. The answer isn’t treating someone to a theme park visit every time. The point is they got chatting and went with the flow. That’s what it takes. Doesn’t lead to a friendship every time but eventually it will.

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        11 days ago

        The meme does not only suggest a conversation is needed. It implies money is needed. “Going with the flow” in the US TBH probably will cause the average person to spend an irresponsible amount of money. I know because I’ve done that and burned a number of holes in my wallet in pursuit of friends (and intimacy). Sure it works plenty of times, but its not sustainable unless you’ve got plenty of money to burn. Most people don’t.

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          It doesn’t, though. He was going to an activity, met a person on the way there, and invited the person to join. Had he been on his way to a free activity the gesture would be free.

          “Going with the flow” doesn’t necessarily mean “blow all your life savings”, and it’s kind of ridiculous to claim that it does. I’m sorry you seem to have been exploited by some people you were trying to connect with, but that’s not what is being encouraged here.

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          11 days ago

          It really doesn’t make any claims that you need money to do this. You could do this with a local park or hike.

          Money helps broaden your options but isn’t required to chat with people.

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      10 days ago

      Reach out and spend wads of money on someone.

      I’ve got a season pass to Six Flags, and part of the deal is getting free “bring a friend” tickets.

      Unless the guy’s treating his taxi driver to meals in the park, this outing could possibly have been free.

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      11 days ago

      You can do nice things for people that aren’t expensive.

      I think it’s cool this guy thought the theme park was such a great experience he had to share it with a stranger.

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        11 days ago

        You can do nice things for people that aren’t expensive.

        It is easy to say this but hard to execute. If you treat people to things that are gratis or cheap a lot of people will think you are a cheapskate or miserly. At best they’ll think you are poor which also isn’t great either, because even good people don’t want to feel like they’re potentially getting into a relationship that expects them to spend more money than the friend to go out and do things with them (unless, again, they’re rich and don’t care about spending a bunch of money).

        If you dress nicely go out to hang with people but skimp out on spending money people will definitely think you are a miser or penny pincher. If you go out looking like a pauper or poor schlub people will generally just avoid you. I’ve done both.

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          11 days ago

          I think that’s a bit extreme.

          My grandpa’s go to was just splitting a beer with people and having a chat. I get that beer isn’t free, but a half a can of beer is not a lot.

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                10 days ago

                The city where I socialize is where the cops would probably bother me if I was drinking a beer outside in public. Small towns here in the US are full of dipshits and bumpkins so I tend to avoid people when in one if possible.