Hey all, I am locking this post. Here is the bottom line. Blahaj is a trans safe instance. Regardless of your personal opinion on whether a term is gender neutral or not, the moment someone tells you that they are not OK with that term, that should be the end of the debate. This is a good rule not only in Blahaj but in real life. Continuing to argue with someone about what they should or should not accept in this matter is harmful.
Honestly in my social circle “Dude” has basically become gender neutral.
Is it weird that I’m a Trans girl and I still use dude like so much?
And yet when other people use it for me, I feel like I have to ask how they meant it 😅
dude isn’t gender neutral?
It really depends 😅
I still think guy/dude is gender neutral. Call it the Good Burger principle:
“I’m a dude, he’s a dude, she’s a dude, we’re all dudes… HEY!”
I call my female friends dude/bro/man every time
Again, not a universally appreciated thing to do. Both cis and trans ladies from many parts of the world would dislike this
I see, well I certainly wouldn’t do that with a trans girl, it’s like calling them by their deadname so a bit disrespectful
