I never thought I would mind changing my last name when getting married until it actually happened, and I was surprisingly emotional about it. It felt like I was erasing my identity or something, a totally unexpected feeling that came out of nowhere. It was also weird to have to change my signature after having it for so many years.
We ended up getting divorced 7 years later and I reclaimed my maiden name, and needless to say, if I ever get married again, I will not be changing my last name. It was also a nightmare of paperwork to change it (both to get married and divorced), and I don’t want to do that yet again.
The nightmare of paperwork and the cluster fuck it creates for tracking people made Quebec’s government change its stance on the subject in 1981 and since then people who want to do it when they get married have to go through the same process as they would have went through to change their name for any other reason and if I’m not mistaken on government IDs the women’s married names were changed back to their original name.
It was also a nightmare of paperwork to change it (both to get married and divorced), and I don’t want to do that yet again.
My wife and I have been married for a few years now and the pharmacy still has her name hyphenated as maidenname-legalname because that was the only way to get the prescriptions consistently processed by insurance
My sister’s first marriage didn’t go well, and her name finally got changed from her maiden name to her married name like the week after they filed for divorce.
I never thought I would mind changing my last name when getting married until it actually happened, and I was surprisingly emotional about it. It felt like I was erasing my identity or something, a totally unexpected feeling that came out of nowhere. It was also weird to have to change my signature after having it for so many years.
We ended up getting divorced 7 years later and I reclaimed my maiden name, and needless to say, if I ever get married again, I will not be changing my last name. It was also a nightmare of paperwork to change it (both to get married and divorced), and I don’t want to do that yet again.
Glad you got to reclaim your name, Ms. Mouse.
The nightmare of paperwork and the cluster fuck it creates for tracking people made Quebec’s government change its stance on the subject in 1981 and since then people who want to do it when they get married have to go through the same process as they would have went through to change their name for any other reason and if I’m not mistaken on government IDs the women’s married names were changed back to their original name.
My wife and I have been married for a few years now and the pharmacy still has her name hyphenated as maidenname-legalname because that was the only way to get the prescriptions consistently processed by insurance
My sister’s first marriage didn’t go well, and her name finally got changed from her maiden name to her married name like the week after they filed for divorce.