I try to read more but what else is there when I don’t wanna just read? I’ve done some notebook stuff too but I’ve found using it too much makes me be anxious about writing a lot down lol.
For instance as I lay on the bed for 10-20 minutes waiting for my child to take their nap. Do I just stare into the void?
Exactly that. State into the void and let my thoughts wonder
Point at a perfectly functioning thing on my server, blow it up, relearn and fix the thing.
An IT friend of mine said “your home server should be like a zen garden…”. I was taken aback. Where else would I get to play with all the new shit I need to learn eventually? Surely not in production. And the home server is meant to serve up distractions not files.
I miss adderall.
I say this sitting beside four servers (including this instance) and one offsite server, you’re very much right. I enjoy homelabbing a lot. Probably my biggest hobby outside of research and gaming. That’s a fun way to think of it!
I love home labbing but sometimes it a chore not an escape. Especially more when you rely or want to actually use the services rather than tinker with broken shit.
Agreed. I’ve chilled out about it a bit. Now that everything’s working I do not care to add more things. Actively trying to run less services.
solitaire. download the PySolFC app, it has a ton of variations.
Seconded Kiwix! Or, start learning some programming- I listen to Python programming videos while I’m doing boring stuff to absorb information…and it’s relaxing ha
WikiTok
Shattered Pixel Dungeon
SGT Puzzles
Kiwix
LiChess ( and Tactic Master)
Street Complete (OSM mapping)
Gurgle( wordle)
Luanti
I said I don’t want to use my phone tho
OK, disregard those phone based ideas.
I read it as if you were looking for content that is outside of most phone based offerings (nasty psychologist created addiction loops etc.)
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Bike riding is excellent for a physical and mental reset. Rear-radars are a thing, beeping when a car is approaching behind from 150m.
Badminton is great too. Portable cheap nets are available with telescopic poles.
Boardgames are great for social mixing.
Probably find something you like from these: Innovation, Inis, Port Royal, Just One, or Scout.
Ah that’s a fair assumption. Luckily I’m mostly off of addicting phone content except maybe some YouTube videos here and there.
Thanks for the further suggestions. I should bike again! Has been hard with a child
You can do it! (c:
The WeeRide models are good for a toddler seat, that is positioned on the crossbar.
For bigger kids, probably need a behind seatpost model.
That’s surprisingly affordable! Never seen them on the front other :) thank you for the suggestion
Something slow or still and beautiful. I relate to wanting some of my time back whenever I get the smallest moment only to find that nothing is good enough to balance out the activity of rest of the day. Low stimulation activities are also not good enough and are boring but can be a much needed moment to get grounded. The best solution is to address what’s really draining you and address it in a way that is not as draining for you. Far easier said than done, I know.
Can’t relate. There is far more content to checkout then one can in one lifetime. Online and offline.
Hope you find your way to what you’re seeking in life. Peace.
You need to practice mindfulness. People should be OK with 10 minutes “staring into the void” and this is exactly the damage phones did to us
Edit: if I really want to look at my phone I open Wikipedia and check out the featured article or maybe the top read of the day list. It’s not brain rot and it’s not that fun either but it’s time well spent
Mindfullness that is free
Guided meditations that are downloadable freely under CC BY-NC-SA.
This is a great recommendation. To add another you can also get the Medito App for either Android or iOS which is also free.
mindfulness
I practice this alot during the day. It helps sometimes to disconnect from the world, and rejoin the server at another timepoint.
My goto device time killer is chess.com. It’s both educational and fun (assuming you don’t get your ass handed to you by a bot 😅).
FYI, lichess.org offers the same functionality (arguably better) for free. It’s a crowd-funded, open-source non-profit, free of any ads or trackers.
sit with your boredom for a bit, its healthy. or rather its unhealthy to be constantly bombarded with dopamine for nothing. enjoy your freedom from the screens.
Yeah, I’ve also found that just being bombarded with information all the time tenses me up. You might think of scrolling Lemmy or similar as “idling”, but obviously your brain is still processing information when you do that.
Just rawdog it? No thanks
theres always drugs
Puzzles. Mini crosswords, wordle, etc.
I enjoy thinking, closing my eyes for a bit, or focusing on my breathing. Or I’ll listen to the birds outside.
Bird watching is actually fun. Animals and nature watching in general.
There’s a nest right outside our bedroom window. They’re on their second group of babies this year.
Depends on the mood I’m in. Lately, I’ve been drawing in a tiny sketchbook I bought because a little sketchbook isn’t very intimidating, and I can just do a few quick practice drawings or commit to a small but detailed piece for an hour.
Another thing I like to do is lay on my back with my headphones on, put on some music, and do literally nothing except stare at the ceiling and listen to all the little details of my favorite songs that I don’t hear when I’m doing other stuff. It’s my form of meditation since “normal” meditation has never worked for me personally.
Lately I’ve been enjoying playing Tetris DX on my Gameboy in my spare time. Keeps the brain busy and me away from my phone.
I mean if Im having a laydown I just rest or nap. I don’t really think of it as staring into the void. I love naps or taking it a easy for a bit. Moreso if I can do it outside with nice weather or even in a chair near an open window. Closing my eyes and listening to the birds and other bits of nature. Granted various noises can make that more of a no go if the timing is not right. Evening is even better with stars and the moon. If you start looking at deep breathing and mediation and having a few minutes is like gold. All that being said I like suduko and its a nice thing to do throughout a day a few mins at a time. I think tastes may vary with suduko though. Crosswords to but I have to be a bit desperate as I find they are more about me learning about the puzzlemaker than language really.
I wish I could learn to nap. I’m 30 and I’ve never been able to do it. Even a 14 hour flight there is no way I’m going to nod off even for a second
Me too. I can only nap if I’m exhausted.
Yeah im one of those folks that can sleep anywhere and it does seem like some folks are easy sleepers and some not. My wife is not. I have to be careful about making noise if she is asleep as she will wake so easily. She has to get the dog to help to get me up.
For instance as I lay on the bed for 10-20 minutes waiting for my child to take their nap. Do I just stare into the void?
Do you have any time that you just let your mind wander, or be mindful of your life?
If I’m sitting somewhere waiting for something and I know it’s just going to be 10ish minutes I’ll usually just take in my environment or let my mind wander. I usually do that when driving home/to work as well. I’m paying attention to the road obviously lol but I don’t have music or anything playing to occupy my mind I just use that time to think.
It’s said to be fairly healthy to give yourself some time for whatever thoughts might come up.
For anyone with a noisy self destructive brain like mine appears to be, I got pretty good at mindfulness by walking the exact same route through the forest the exact same time every day and by just sort of casually observing the sights and smells which somehow became a mental association with “these thoughts are normal and OK” including those extremely dark ones if you know what I mean
Basically any time a bird is making a sound now I can just enter a meditative sort of state where thoughts just come and go regardless of how evil those thoughts are. I changed the angle of my skylight window in my bedroom so that it acoustically catches the sound of the birds on the tree to my east, and if you know birds they sort of go sit on the same branch and sing the same exact bullshit on a somehow perfect schedule
Lately going through the darkest period of my life. When I manage to finally fall asleep I wake up from horrifying nightmares but there is a bird that will sit on my skylight at exactly 4am and he gets me back to sleep ez and I stay asleep
I used to have a hummingbird couple that I chilled with on my balcony every sunset but unfortunately they passed away this year
Sleep deprived ramble but maybe there’s some wisdom here
I didn’t want to mention it in my initial comment, but that is something I need to work on too lol
Like 80% of the time my mind wanders it’s usually some self deprecating nonsense, or extremely critical analysis of my failure in life. I figure it’s stuff I need to process anyway, but the countless amount of times I call myself worthless trash probably isn’t doing me any favors lol
Yeah it’s really easy to lose the plot sometimes. Lately at my desk at work the words “worthless animal” and “I trusted you” are what the voice in my head won’t stop shouting so I’m slowly picking up the pieces with the forest routine again and trying to get that noise to ease up a little bit
With info overload these days everyone struggles with this to some extent I do believe
