I have two kids and a bonus kid. Let me inform you that at no point has “not feeling it” been a valid reason to end that relationship. They are in fact not feeling the food at several occasions, and then changing their mind once they try it. I don’t see the doctrine you are talking about bring any insight still, but it also isn’t wrong. Love is free. You can choose. It is a very basic message. Kids cannot choose though. And prisoners, etc. I really do not understand fully how social and external factors can ever impact these rules when they do, daily for many people around the world? We want free love, for sure, but just saying it’s law and abstracting away any external impact is not really helpful? Or I am missing a lot
It rather seems to me that you’re only responding to the generalized ideas I’m trying to present as they relate to your own specific experience, and using that as a way to discount or invalidate the concept entirely. I don’t see the point in going to bat so hard for this. I’m not telling you how to raise the humans you’ve chosen to be responsible for, I’m just saying that’s another kind of relationship. Relationship anarchy is very specifically not “free love”, which clearly wasn’t so free anyways. Love is free, sure, but these days so many people’s time is money; taking the time to choose what relationships you participate in, and what that participation looks like, can’t possibly be a bad idea, and that’s the idea with RA.
That’s not correct, you told me to not have kids before I accept your brand of relationship management which, still just is free love with a cooler name to me.
Also, fuck me for asking about your passion and trying to understand? It seems like free love, the moral concept most learn while very young. I don’t think adding in conscious choice or evaluation of friends makes it different at all. These are things people do in school mostly and which parents teach their kids about. It is already included in the neat package of free love. You may like or dislike who you want. We can give advice, but not choose for you.
I struggle to understand because it feels like there should be a nugget of wisdom in there but it’s kind of frustrating at the same time that it doesn’t say anything. Sorry.
I have two kids and a bonus kid. Let me inform you that at no point has “not feeling it” been a valid reason to end that relationship. They are in fact not feeling the food at several occasions, and then changing their mind once they try it. I don’t see the doctrine you are talking about bring any insight still, but it also isn’t wrong. Love is free. You can choose. It is a very basic message. Kids cannot choose though. And prisoners, etc. I really do not understand fully how social and external factors can ever impact these rules when they do, daily for many people around the world? We want free love, for sure, but just saying it’s law and abstracting away any external impact is not really helpful? Or I am missing a lot
It rather seems to me that you’re only responding to the generalized ideas I’m trying to present as they relate to your own specific experience, and using that as a way to discount or invalidate the concept entirely. I don’t see the point in going to bat so hard for this. I’m not telling you how to raise the humans you’ve chosen to be responsible for, I’m just saying that’s another kind of relationship. Relationship anarchy is very specifically not “free love”, which clearly wasn’t so free anyways. Love is free, sure, but these days so many people’s time is money; taking the time to choose what relationships you participate in, and what that participation looks like, can’t possibly be a bad idea, and that’s the idea with RA.
That’s not correct, you told me to not have kids before I accept your brand of relationship management which, still just is free love with a cooler name to me.
Also, fuck me for asking about your passion and trying to understand? It seems like free love, the moral concept most learn while very young. I don’t think adding in conscious choice or evaluation of friends makes it different at all. These are things people do in school mostly and which parents teach their kids about. It is already included in the neat package of free love. You may like or dislike who you want. We can give advice, but not choose for you.
I struggle to understand because it feels like there should be a nugget of wisdom in there but it’s kind of frustrating at the same time that it doesn’t say anything. Sorry.