I feel like its safe (adjacent) to say that everyone is hurt, and the comparison of those hurts is counterproductive.

In cases where parental agreements aren’t worked out, a bias toward the mother is unfair. Any added burden to mothers while stripping them of rights is also not ok. To take it to a huge extreme: both men and women get raped. Men are mocked if they come forward and women are dismissed or worse. These are both wrong things. Deciding which is more wrong is distracting from the actual wrong thing: the fact that they were harmed in the first place and the authorities don’t take them seriously.