Wow thank you. Genuinely had a bit of an emotional moment reading this, I feel seen.

I’m sure there are more that I’ve just never even considered because I’m not a dude so there are challenges there that I’ve never faced /seen

Personally I think you covered it quite well. I think I’ve been fortunate in not having some of the more toxic expectations ingrained into me.

I grew up in a household with extremely racist/misogynist/bigoted/xenophobic views

Big ups to you for overcoming this. I was raised with all of that but very very tame and I sometimes think if I had been raised in an extremely racist household I would not be able to grow out of it.