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It instantly breaks the “dopamine loop” of social media apps. It makes your phone feel like a tool rather than a toy. And it helps with eye strain and extends battery life.
10/10 would recommend.
Retired at age 40, am now 60. Wish i had done it at 35.
Storing superglue in the fridge. Those tiny packs now actually last until I’ve used it all.
Now there’s a tip! Hang on walking to my fridge.
Bonus nugget: Store it in the door, next to the mayonnaise. It may not matter, but that’s what I (happen to) do, and it works like a charm.
Crossing into superstition a little maybe, but why not.
I like to replicate a working procedure as closely as possible, but It’s small and (probably) inconsequential enough that I think of it more as sub-par-stition
I store it in the freezer and it lasts forever.
The only downside is that every time I go to use it, it starts expanding as it heats up and ends up dripping out of the nozzle even when I’m not squeezing it.
Nothing a bit of paper towel can’t fix but it can become a bit messy.
Wait… even after you open it? The ones without a cap?
Haven’t tried the cap less ones, but wouldn’t surprise me if it also works, at least to a limited degree. Super glue cures because of the moisture in the air, and cold environments are very poor at holding moisture.
I’ll give it a go. I buy the “single serving” glue because I’m always repairing kid toys, and I hated how it went bad so quickly.
Same, but I started buying larger ones after it stopped going bad due to the fridge. Most toy repair in my household are usually done with superglue, epoxy, or solder, all of which last forever here. And failihg those, printing a new part is usually an option here.
If you don’t feel like modeling and printing a part, have you tried epoxy putty?
It’s great for fixing complex molded shapes, like play dough that hardens to plastic.
For me, it was buying CA glue from hobby or woodworking shops instead of those tiny packs of “superglue”. Comes in all different thicknesses and with activator usually for a lower cost per gram, and in bottles designed to last until the glue is gone.
I’m sure brand also plays a role. The three adhesives I use the most, both at home and at work are superglue, epoxy, and threadlocker. And I always use Locktite brand for all three (well, 7 if you count the different strengths of threadlock)
I started running Linux 15 years ago, and switched to Linux as my main daily driver like 10 years ago. And I couldn’t be happier, but I still wish I would have started my Linux journey way sooner, especially since Windows is about as useful as used toilet paper these days…
same, but only 3 years here
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Living alone
I lived alone for most of my life and I agree. Had a friend from another country visit and sleep at my place for a week and even though I like him I am glad he’s gone now. It’s my safe space.
Weird thing about this is that sometimes there’s this weird phenomenon called separation anxiety
Especially in Parent-Child relations… its so weird to get attached to emotionally abusive parents.
I understand. I won’t pretend like there aren’t days when I don’t feel a deep, almost sorrowful need for companionship. Especially familial connection. However, the peace is worth it in so many ways that outweigh that. Mental health has grown over time. I promise it is not easy, but it is worth it.
I much prefer living with my partner. Best decision to move in together
I was enrolled into this experiment against my will recently. We’ll see how it goes. For the record, I’ve hand my laundry hung drying for four weeks now.
I wish you the best.
Appreciate it.
Absolutely
Hear me out:
Bamboo pajamas
I WFH so negl I am in jammies most of the time (yeah I throw on a corporate tshirt for the annoying “cams-on” zooms but still wearing jammie bottoms)
Wife got bamboo onesies for the baby. So soft. Then she found they also make adult jammies of the same material. Omfg. Where was this all my life till now?
You have not lived till you wear soft bamboo clothes. Worth every penny.
I remember hearing back during COVID when everyone was WFH that sales of business pants had tanked. Sales of business shirts hadn’t. So that tracks.
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Interesting, never heard of this till now. May become my new go-to.
Internet rabbit hole summary:
- made out of Beechwood
- subjectively ~10% softer than bamboo
- brand name is owned by an Austrian company that follows strictest Euro regulations incl:
- 95-99% closed-loop chemical re-use
- sustainable tree sourcing in European forests with neither irrigation nor pesticides
Jesus Christ, it’s like ecocide not to switch to the softer alternative.
Moreover, to my surprise, the prices are about the same. Top and bottom are each in the ~$35-45 range, or an oversize sleep shirt for ~$50-60
Down sides, apparently Bamboo:
- is sturdier
- breathes better
Anyway, ordered a identical pair off Etsy for myself and the wife. Will be fun to compare.
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I’ve found that my bamboo garments stretch out and pill. Is that a common thing for bamboo or did I get unlucky with the quality?
I have not had that experience.
My go-to brands have been Posh Peanut and Lil Sleepies
Getting on HRT of course
Cutting my hair short (like masc).
Folks insisted “but [my] hair is so nice”, “what if you regret it?” And “but you won’t be able to tie it back.”
I finally feel like me. I’m almost mad at myself for not doing it like ten years ago. I’m so genuinely happy over a friggin haircut. It’s wild.
You and me, we’re the same!
It’s liberation
I kept my hair short for like half a decade until covid, and it was so enjoyable. It kinda didn’t look well on me, sadly. I looked like a match. XD
is a guy who always has crew cuts or high and tights i’m finally doing the opposite and letting it all grow, i feel the same though haha but my dad and mom always hated my hair long 😖
I relate so hard to this.
It came to a head one day in college, I had planned to cut my hair short because it was summer. I was feeling crummy flu like symptoms and kept putting it off until finally I had to give in and put off the haircut.
I felt such a euphoric sense of relief, it made me realize how much more me I felt with long long hair.
Going vegan, kicking my religion/faith to the curb, leaving my abusive marriage, injecting estrogen.
Some pretty fun years.
What did injecting estrogen do and do you no longer do it? Why if so?
It gave me booba, smoother skin and a will to live lol
I’m trans and yeah I am still doing it :3
Smoother skin? What kind of witchcraft is that?
Well I think “softer” skin would be more precise. It’s a quite common effect when you switch from a testosteron controlled body to an estrogen controlled one.
Delete Facebook and twitter
X is for nazi pedos
I only have facebook still because my older relatives use it to communicate a lot, otherwise I’d never touch it again.
Unfortunately some places you can’t delete Facebook. For example my local town dump was shut down this weekend due to -40 temps, only place it was posted was Facebook. Yea I went to the dump with a car load of trash and recycling to find myself staring at the shut gate. Wasn’t happy about that…
X is for Nazis, you’re right. I actually deleted Facebook in like 2010 and Twitter in 2019 or something; long before Elon bought it. It was already becoming a drain on my mental health thanks to Trump. honestly, it’s crazy i kept using it much after 2015.
You can have messenger without Facebook. At least it’s possible in the EU
SSRIs. I already knew this was likely going to be my conclusion, but I really wish I started the treatment sooner. So many years feeling incompetent and damaged! Months of school missed, almost getting expelled, turning down invites, awkward friendship moments, scared of my own shadow… Anxiety is mentally brutal. It’s not just being scared or exaggerating, it’s a very real struggle that can destroy your social life – which is needed to live a healthy and prosperous life. I spent so many days unable to get myself out of bed because anything outside of that area seemed like a threat.
I started SSRIs 8 months ago. I can’t say it’s been perfect, but that’s not what I’m aiming for. Some periods are tougher than others, but I’m so grateful I’m at a state where I actually feel like I’m living – not a shell of a person. I’m not self-sabotaging myself as much as I used to, and I’m gaining more and more independence and confidence in my daily life. I’m finally able to say that I’m happy and motivated.
I’m sure that therapy will help resolve some of my childhood trauma, so I’m looking forward to that, but I want to go into the sessions with a clear mind. Without the medication, I wouldn’t be able to process and live by my psychologist’s advice. I’m extremely grateful to have found a treatment that works!
I describe my experience of SSRIs as cleaning the very dirty windows of a room and being able to see out at last, and to see the room itself with all that extra light, and to enjoy the feeling of sun on my skin.
I still remember the first time I woke up in the morning without a knot of dread in my gut. I was on SSRIs for a year, and then took them again for another six months later on. That was all 20 years ago or so.
You described it perfectly! I resonate so much with the feeling of the sun on your skin. When I visualise myself in a peaceful place, I imagine myself running through a field of tall grass with the sun’s warmth on my skin.
If you don’t mind me asking, how come you stopped taking them? I’m asking because I can’t imagine my life without them now that I’ve learned of the difference they make. I’ve tried grounding techniques and journalling but they never helped quite as much as the medication did, so I can’t rely on those methods.
Good question. It’s hard to recall exactly, but I felt in the end that I wanted to try living without their help. I weaned off them gradually and felt ok. Then after a few years I felt the symptoms of depression return and resumed taking them for I think six months. This was nearly 20 years ago. I haven’t suffered depression since.
I know other people on SSRIs have talked about a flattening of emotions, but I never felt that. They didn’t make me happy exactly - it’s more that they enabled me to feel optimistic.
Downward facing dog -> upward facing dog -> child pose
My lower stomach and digestion work so much better when I remember to do this.
How long do you recommended doing each pose for?
Tell me more!
I mean that is kinda it, it is a simple body motion I never learned until yoga that clearly I was supposed to be doing because my body just digests/does all the gassy stuff better, this whole time I just didn’t know.
No one told me “Do downward facing dog, your tummy will feel better!” I just discovered it from doing it so I feel like I wish I discovered that way sooner.
You’re getting relief from gas with it, rather than reflux or gutrot?
Wait til you hear about bow pose.
When you remember to do it, how often do you do it? How long do you hold each pose?
Things that helped;
- Blocking Lemmy and Reddit on my phone, and limiting time browsing the News
- Delete social media apps from the phone
- Switching from diet sodas to just cold water
- Reducing coffee from 4 a day to 0-1 a day
- Get diagnosed for ADHD and get on Vyvanse
- Eat high fibre, starting the day with oats/fibre
- Meditating
- Journaling, with weekly review of how I progressed towards my goals
- Cutting back on smoking weed to once every other month
What I’m still working on;
- Cut down on time browsing porn. I’ll probably binge porn for an afternoon once a week or two. Still too much.
- Consistency in the gym. I’ve had a lot of life altering events happen recently, so I’m trying to get back on the ball.
- Just vegging out on the computer while at home. I should be doing things like writing, reading, or exercise. But instead I sit here and type out long comments while my meds kick in. :)
The more I read, the more this sounds like toxic productivity. It’s okay to have downtime. It’s okay to just relax. It’s okay to have hobbies that aren’t entirely focused on health or mental wellbeing. It’s okay to occasionally indulge hedonic tendencies like porn. Hell, most doctors say that jorkin it a few times a week helps keep things healthy.
Maintaining this kind of lifestyle will likely result in burnout sooner or later.
What part of all this is toxic? Who said I don’t have hedonistic tendencies?
I watch porn. I just waste several hours a week on it. Trust me, I’m going to keep watching porn. I just want to timeblock it a little better, improving my relationship with it.
Maintaining this kind of lifestyle will likely result in burnout sooner or later.
Which ones exactly do you think contribute to burnout? Because as I read through it, I can’t think of a single one that does. Maybe journaling if you do it every single day (I don’t).
It’s okay to work on yourself too. Nothing toxic about anything they said. Stop trying to discourage people from working on themselves.
porn addiction is probably hard, there are forums out there usually about porn-induced ED that may give insight.
I’m not trying to give up as well, just want to reduce it. I did try a four week break from it (made it to 2 weeks) and it did reduce the amount of time I spent on it from that point forward. So I might have to do another one of those.
Lifting weights.
Today me is thankful for 18 year old me for once starting a healthy habit early and actually sticking to it.
I lifted on and off in my 20s, 30s, and 40s but never stuck with it. I started again at 55. Except for taking a break over the last two Christmass, I’ve been pretty consistant.
Fountain of youth.
Having money.
No but seriously, nothing even comes close.
I have 3 years wage saved up but I still suffer from chronic financial anxiety and I’m starting to worry it might not go away with more money.
However, I can’t know how anxious I’d be without these savings so there’s that too.
Growing up broke will make you feel broke for all your life no matter how much you save up. Therapy helps. Luckily with money you can afford therapy.
It’ll go away when you have a billion dollars.
Or not.
It won’t.
But that’s a good thing. Don’t let it go away. Just learn to control it.
It will all go away when you die. Enjoy it and share it.
The anxiety
