Uum “My nose has seen better days”

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    9 months ago

    Nothing. I keep walking.

    I’ve matured enough to realize they were probably being abused at home. And while it wasn’t fair they took it out on me, some people are dealt a really bad hand and aren’t equipped with the tools or support to overcome it.

    Also, they committed suicide recently so there’s that.

    • VaultBoyNewVegas@lemmy.world
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      9 months ago

      Mine wasn’t. He was celebrated for being an amateur boxing champion now he’s a professional and pops up in the news where he’s talked up as being great.

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        9 months ago

        That’s the American Dream in action. Claw, kill, and rape life till you “succeed” and get celebrated for it because you helped the plantation owner during your journey. That’s the agreement. Favors for favors. There’s nothing here for good honest genuine people.

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          Not American though. I’m from Northern Ireland and my bully was all Ireland champion at 15 and was even considered for the commonwealth games. Because we’re a small place with a population of something like 8-9 million any time someone becomes successful at anything they’re made a big deal of.

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    9 months ago

    A few years after we’d left school, one of my bullies tried adding me on fb, and when I declined the request, they sent another, which I also declined.

    I think I’d do the in-person equivalent of that.

  • Call me Lenny/Leni@lemm.ee
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    Bold of you to assume I only had one. It was more like the whole class. Sometimes faculty was included.

    There’s nothing in particular I’d say to them, but it’s always amusing seeing their children and the former classmates panicking at the idea that I might tell them about how their mommy and daddy were bullies.

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      9 months ago

      Mine did not really have cliques but there was definitely some bullying. I may have occasionally been involved in that. Nothing physical of course but words can be pretty fucking hurtful.

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      9 months ago

      Same. My high school was chill and all the students were largely respectful to one another.

      Middle and elementary school where a different story though. That shit was wild.

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        9 months ago

        I will forever maintain that 8th graders are the most vicious people on this planet

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      9 months ago

      Maybe you didn’t experience the bullying that was happening, or you weren’t on the outer of the cliques that existed?

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        9 months ago

        Yeah that’s just… not how that works? People are perfectly capable to keeping to themselves without necessarily being bullied

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          9 months ago

          I had a relatively similar experience. Some people were definitely treated like shit, but there’s was nearly none of what’s classically considered bullying, especially of a physical nature. Im not pretending it was some utopia where everybody got alone, but the vast majority of people were far too busy worrying about their own shit.

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    9 months ago

    My high school bully stopped bullying me when I fought back. After that, he and I were friendly. Not close friends, but friendly with each other.

    I saw him about five years after high school at a Chinese buffet, and caught up with him a bit.

    A couple years after that, he died in a car crash.

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    I have absolutely no idea. “So how have you been doing since ruining my life? IV drug abuse? That’s awesome, man, heard about that one through the grapevine and it gave me some… well, not joy, of course, but definitely a bit of grim satisfaction. Maybe there’s something to this karma thing after all, eh?”

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    9 months ago

    I worked with him on the same construction job for months. I never brought it up and he acted towards me like nothing ever happened. However it’s clear to me that he never changed and is still more or less the same person than he was back then. If anything I only feel sorry for him. It’s not his fault, he can’t help himself.

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      9 months ago

      Yeah, my biggest bully I ended up seeing in college. He pretended like nothing happened. He got drunk and pissed himself and then every time I heard his name it went hand in hand with worrying about him pissing himself when he drank. So…

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    9 months ago

    Funily enough, I did meet him a month or two ago. We just talked about where we are in our lives, was kinda ok. I thought about bringing up the past by an offhand comment at first, but let it go. It was no different than if I’d meet almost anyone from that school.

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      9 months ago

      I’ve seen a few comments in this thread that make me wonder whether bullies actually know they’re bullies. Everyone is the hero in their own story, but they must have known on some level.

  • wazzupdog (they/them)@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    9 months ago

    I actually ran into one of my highschool bullies about 10 years after i graduated, i didn’t recognize them, but they knew me they bought me a drink and apologized and we ended up playing a round of pool. People can change and I’m glad they did for the better.