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  • I didn’t think I had to be that explicit with the details. No. I was not intending to imply that. Honestly the topic of the comic is gross and I was trying not to acknowledge it too much. I was mostly just talking about the past/future bodily consent issue in general. Sorry I wasn’t more clear.

    Edit: I had a different reply earlier where I was jerkish. Sorry. I shouldn’t comment whilst grouchy and sleepy. I re-read my earlier comment and, yeah, I can see how that came off that way.



  • Past me can give consent for themselves, yeah. If I ever change my mind then so too does the status of the consent.

    So, if the present version of the person in the comic gave consent, but the past version did not, then consent would not be given. Time travel or no, it is up to the individual.

    (Edit: I was talking about broad consent here without taking into context the subject matter of the comic. I was trying to avoid that subject matter because it is gross, and hoisted myself by my own petard in the process. To be clear - The past version is under age and therefore cannot give consent in the depicted scenario.)

    I don’t agree that they are the same person. Even though they’re two instances of one being. They’re two physically separate bits of mass with different opinions on the situation.





  • @[email protected] 8 hours ago:

    We had to rely on so many tricks when tinder was not a thing

    @[email protected] now:

    I also never partook into this sort of approach

    I think I safely assumed you were in support of, and possibly engaging in, that approach based on how fervently you were advocating for it. If you are not supportive of it you should have used less self-inclusive language, or been slightly critical at some point. Say stuff like “people did x” instead of “we did x” for example.

    To be clear: I never said it wasn’t happening. I said if one were to behave like that it would be called out as weird. Granted, I was in the dating scene at the tail end of the “Pre-Tinder” era. Sites like PoF and eHarmony were around, but lots of dating and mingling was still being initiated in the IRL sphere. Online dating was still seen as a new thing for nerds after all. I am sure things were different in the early 90s and before.

    Something being, as you’ve described, standard procedure not so long ago does not make it inherently good. Doesn’t make it inherently bad either. Just have to reassess stuff every now and then.


  • Alabaster_Mango@lemmy.catoGreentext@sh.itjust.worksAnon asks out a girl
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    Well I hope you’re either happily in a relationship or some kind of merry recluse because things are different now and I doubt your “tricks” will work so well. We’re trying out this new thing where we act like women are people, and we pretend that they don’t want to be prayed upon by thirsty dudes at every venue. Not everyone is on board yet but it’s catching on.

    The block thing is kind of sad. Is that how you normally go through mild disagreements? Blocking and being blocked? Cause that would suck. It’s cool guy, I am not hurt. I personally don’t want to live in an echo chamber of only things I agree with. How would I get into arguments with strangers?

    P.S. I don’t actually think this was an argument. That was just for the joke.


  • Alabaster_Mango@lemmy.catoGreentext@sh.itjust.worksAnon asks out a girl
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    you went out with them to smoke, asked / give some lighter and voila.

    So you didn’t just barge into their group conversation. Cause that would be weird right?

    You should also give up on this whole “wizend internet elder” schtick. I was also going to bars and youth places before Tinder, and behaviour like that of the 4Chan guy would definitely be called out as strange and unwelcome.