I’m just going to share this here, and it’s entirely anecdotal.
I’ll put it behind a drop down so read it of your own volition.
spoiler
Somehow despite being quite the introvert I have somehow managed to encounter numerous men who have been horrifically abused by the women in their life, myself included. For example one young lad who regularly slept with his own mother, a grandmother who did wildly inappropriate things with her grandkids (hiding candy in her clothing…)
I lived with emotional abuse from my mother, and a creepy cougar teacher who was far to interested in a younger me.
Later in life, I had a small group of friends and out of the 4 of them, all 4 had been out right sexually assaulted.
One guy was roofied at a club by a wannabe dominatrix who didn’t understand BDSM, woke up in her bed chained up.
Another woke up to an older female cousin raping him while he was sleeping on a couch.
Then there was the guy who worked in bars, hen parties were a nightmare and plenty of women would get handsy and see nothing wrong with it.
There’s more but I don’t remember right now, and I don’t want to dig it out.
So in summary… why am I mentioning this here?
It’s not to bash anyone, but rather to suggest that just like many guys are told to watch their brothers for abusive behaviour we should encourage women to be aware of the kind of abuse that other women can dish out and intervene if possible.
Also, if you do try to engage with a guy about his emotional state, do consider that it is extremely common for men to have in the past opened up to a partner only to have it weaponised against him thus making him hyper vigilant about doing so again.
Heya!
Well yeah… at the end of the day we’re all human :)
I’m doing somewhat better, my life is… weird. But compared to the difficulties some people live with, I’m content enough.
But I also do recognise that in many ways, I’m pretty broken. But, we keep going, try and find joy where we can :)
There’s a lot more I could say, I have some views that would probably be considered… weird as I was raised by a 2nd generation English feminist. But I also kind of don’t want to side track the thread :)