Well now we’ve just reinvented the victorian concept of a woman

Hey get a load of this loser! Interacting with the real world! Ha! Everyone laugh! Hahahaha!

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SPIRAL OUT, KEEP GO-ING!

Dont understand the downvotes. You’re right.

A good doctor takes your existing lab results as data to use to generate a hypothesis about your condition in order to think of other tests to run or other things to try or other specialists to refer you to. Again, the appropriate response to “your lab results look normal” is “I don’t fucking care, I still feel like shit, do your damn job - no wonder everyone is flocking to alternative medicine and chatgpt if you don’t understand that what I want is results, not a shrug.”

Basically all healthcare systems function like this - most doctors, most of the time, are phoning it in. They have tons of other patients to see, and a tee time to get to, and the default assumption is that if the standard tests don’t bring anything up then the patient is fine, and the condition will resolve itself, or else the patient is simply a hypochondriac. The way you get them to take you seriously is by being annoying as fuck and telling them to do their damn job, and often, doing their job for them by looking into things that could be causing your condition yourself. You could look into getting a healthcare advocate, someone who knows the system and can ask for the right things to get you to the person you need; or a concierge doctor, a doctor you pay directly to actually be a fucking doctor and either solve your problem or help you manage it. Or you could reach out in your social network to see if you have any connections in the medical field who could point you in the right direction for appropriate treatment or referrals.

And I will note the distinct possibility that the doctors you are seeing and who are dismissing you might be right in their implicit assumption that you are simply a hypochondriac - in which case you still have a problem, and you need to see a mental health care professional.

But when trying to figure out any health issue, it is categorically true that the more you investigate, the more possibilities you find, and the longer your list of things to try becomes. The struggle of someone actually working to solve their health problem is that they have too many things to do, too many disappointments to face, and an endless array of treatments and protocols they need to try to prioritize. If your complaint is that there is nothing to be done, then you aren’t actually trying, which is why no one wants to listen to your complaints.

I did a quick google search and found this article. It seems like it is a conservative news source, so I am skeptical of the bent - but the facts seem to support my view:

Israeli Jewish parents and particularly mothers deserve recognition. Raising children requires sacrifice, patience, and devotion. These mothers achieve this with just 14 weeks of paid maternity leave per child—less than the OECD average of 19 weeks and far less than many European nations. Israeli mothers return to work earlier yet still have more children.

This growth comes overwhelmingly from those closest to Jewish traditional values. Haredi families lead with an average of over six children. Religious families have nearly four, and traditional Jews exceed the replacement rate with almost three children, while secular Israelis fall short with just two children. Those who preserve tradition are building the future.

The narrative I see here is that Israel has moderate support for families, and the reversal of birth rates is being driven by religious conservatives responding to a call to outcompete Palestinian birth rates. I’m open to other interpretations of the phenomenon from other sources, or your own interpretation of the article - but I feel like this matches up with my prior assumptions.

The driving force in low birth rates is emancipation and secularization of women. Providing more maternity leave, more child-rearing stipends, better health care, etc, simply won’t sway women who take a rational look at the process of birthing and raising children - destroying your body to be chained to a thankless responsibility for 18 years - and decide that they would rather have more money and free time instead. I will say my personal opinion on this descision is “that makes a lot of sense to me, good for you, snowboarding does sound a lot more fun than trying to control a child’s temper tantrum in a starbucks.” Of course, there are people on the margins, who would have a child if their economic conditions were better - but my feeling here is that this is a moving target. What counts as “ready” has less to do with actual physical needs, and more to do with being able to essentially keep up with the Joneses. Ie, the prospective secular mother wrings her hands, worrying that if her child can’t get into an Ivy League college then they will be miserable and so what is the point of giving them life in the first place? The religious mother, on the other hand, has absolute clarity (as reinforced weekly at her religious services) that motherhood is the greatest honor and responsibility she will have in her life, and that every life she gives birth to is a fantastic gift, regardless of how miserable it might be, and so gives birth while deeply in debt and living in a trailer park.

I have to say, this feels like a take that I’d like to see some evidence for. Because often those immigrants are coming from countries with essentially no social safety net and very regressive social customs. They have 7 kids because the mom was raised in a tight knit religious community where it was made very clear that her worth as a person was dependent on birthing and raising many children, and she carried that belief into adulthood. When these nations gain access to birth control, better education and autonomy for women, and more knowledge of the outside world, birth rates drop.

On the other hand, I have yet to hear of any developed nation successfully reversing declining birth rates via social welfare programs. I’m not saying that a properly executed program couldn’t work - I’m just saying I haven’t seen one yet.

If anything, based on the evidence I can see, we should expect the exact opposite effect. Welfare states will need to import population from more virile regressive states

Of course your family has told you to stop complaining. Hearing someone moan about their poor health is annoying and boring. We don’t want to hear about it either, hence all the comments you are getting here telling you to stop making posts trying to normalize your clearly abnormal condition. We don’t know what is wrong with you and can’t help you. You need to see a doctor. If the doctor tells you everything is normal, tell the doctor that they suck big fat donkey dick at doing their job and tell them to refer you to a doctor who isn’t phoning it in.

I already read what you just copy and pasted. I’m not a doctor. I don’t know what is wrong with you. But if they run tests and tell you everything is normal, then the appropriate response is to say “I don’t care if the tests say everything is normal, I still feel like shit.”

The fact that you have these symptoms indicates something is going on. If the tests say everything is normal, then they are missing something

I mean, its kinda a boomer take. But what they are saying is that a lot of people reach a certain point in life where they change their minds and decide to have kids even though they didnt want them or thought they werent ready yet. The person who says “ugh, no, there is no way I would ever have kids” and then 3 years later rolls over in bed with their partner and says “yaknow… what if…?”

Which, really this shouldn’t be surprising. As a biological organism, essentially all your drives are oriented around survival and reproduction.

Of course, declining birth rates around the world push back against this theory… But with a wider view, we expect evolution to take its course, and for traits that encourage greater reproduction to be selected for.

Are you 14? Because it seems like you are posting here for the sake of picking a fight, rather than understanding anything.

The people responding to you are explaining the commonly accepted rationale for and history of the second amendment in an attempt to help you understand it. You seem to be taking this as full throated support of it, which I doubt many people here have.

I feel like I very much doubt the showmakers would claim the title “socialist” in their worldview

I dont doubt it is incel crap. But idk, in isolation it seems to me like it is making fun of the stressing about running out of time. Which, idk, feels pro-mental health and enjoying life to me.

Also, I haven’t seen anyone break down about this myself - but it is definitely something on some of my female friends’ minds. If they want kids, they have a window. You can argue about exactly what it is… but it exists. And they want a runway. They want to find a guy who has his shit together and who has the same goals and values and who is enjoyable to be around, and that can be difficult in the first place. And then they need to date him for a few years until they feel like they are ready to commit. Then they get married, and need to be in a good place financially in order to raise a kid “right”. And if they date a guy for a few years and it doesn’t work out, then their timeline starts over. Which, while I am not female nor do I have the goal of having kids, does sound like a stressful situation.

I like moths. I think they are neat, and I really wish them the best.

Until they get in my room, and fly into my face when I’m looking at my phone in bed. Then its time for them to die, because they never follow light out of my room or respond to being shooed out.

I mean, zoning reform needs to happen before transit is a viable option. Miles and miles of low density sfhs and strip malls will never be able to be effectively served by transit because a transit system can’t possibly be efficient enough to both serve a reasonable number of people and get people where they are going in a timely fashion. Its just geometry.

Because they asked a stupid question

I mean, first of all remember that it is a dumb internet community, and especially the ones like you describe tend to be populated by shut in neckbeards. You, meanwhile, have shit to do that is more important. Go do that shit.

If it is really invasive, then stop thinking about it and start feeling it. That is, don’t try to logic the feeling of how it was unfair, or they are assholes, or you’ve been mistreated. Instead focus on the sensations of the emotion you are feeling. You are feeling angry? How do you know you are feeling angry? A tightness of facial muscles? The hairs standing up on the back of your neck? Thoughts of violence or revenge? Notice the feeling with curiousity for a breath or two, or a minute or two if you still have time, or until the feeling passes and your mind wanders to something else.

I think that advocates are right in that, once the kinks are worked out, they will be far safer than human drivers.

At the same time, I think the implications lead to a lot of dystopian implications for cities. Like, a properly tuned self driving car will never hit a pedestrian. So pedestrians in cities will learn they can safely step out into the street even in oncoming traffic. But this will cause the car to swerve and slam to a halt, which us a bad UX for the passenger. Enter: automatically reported jaywalking offenses powered by car cameras and facial recognition technology.

Tbf, both C# and VB use NuGet. Which also functions as the command line software installer for Windows in general. So it is kind of what you are looking for.