When the “woke” mania swept the country in 2020, I took a step back and reevaluated where I stood and why I stood there. To my surprise, I found that I agreed with conservatives and libertarians on a number of issues. I opposed childhood gender transitions, unlawful and divisive DEI mandates, and the excesses of Critical Race Theory. I argued against biological males competing in women’s sports and being housed in women’s prisons. I did so loudly and publicly, losing many friends along the way.
Today, some of those same attorneys I worked with are advocating for my right to marry my fiancée to be stripped away.
I fell for obvious right-wing propaganda and rationalized the hate with reason and logic. Now the hate machine is coming for me and that’s not fair!
When the “woke” mania swept the country in 2020, I took a step back and reevaluated where I stood and why I stood there. To my surprise, I found that I agreed with conservatives and libertarians on a number of issues. I opposed childhood gender transitions, unlawful and divisive DEI mandates, and the excesses of Critical Race Theory.
Didn’t make it very far into the article; I had to stop reading right there. I can’t handle this much ignorance and bigotry. What a fucking clown. 🤡
I had to stop here:
“This is a dangerous game right-wing culture warriors are playing. If Obergefell falls, it won’t just impact same-sex couples. It will set a precedent that fundamental rights can be granted and taken away by the shifting winds of political power. This should concern every American, regardless of their stance on same-sex marriage.”
Fucking bozo bash
Ask her to describe what any of those mean, and she’ll just mumble a bunch of bullshit about how they’re performing surgeries in school, how DEI is just about hiring black people, and Critical Race Theory is about NASCAR or something.
You weren’t missing much by stopping there. I wish I had. She still doesn’t realise that she’s been a useful idiot to them all along.
womp womp.
They spent their token for all it’s worth.
This person needs to develop self-awareness: why is it only becoming a problem when it affects her directly?
Her issue doesn’t affect me at all but I still want to do the right thing. And I would never vote for Trump because it was pretty clear he wouldn’t do the right thing, in many human right and quality of life scenarios
(Plus he had a long history as a con man from before he ran for election, before he paid for his sleazy reality show to reset his reputation: I’m still confused how people could fall for this)
Based on my interactions with you in the past, you were unable to apply this same logic to the genocide in Gaza.
You don’t actually live by the principle you just stated and hypocritically are fine with throwing someone else under the bus to protect yourself.
That was several years ago, though. Hopefully you’ve changed.
why is it only becoming a problem when it affects her directly?
Based on that it kinda sounds like she is a conservative.
I wonder if this is just a bait article or she is this ignorant.
It seems to be a variation in the extent to which one can easily extend empathy outside close kin groups to more extended or even abstract kin groups that defines what makes someone constitutionally more conservative or more liberal. It has to do with fear thresholds and openness to experience traits too but also empathy scope. And so my conclusion is that this woman is constitutionally more inclined towards a conservative mindset and that this is independent of her sexual orientation. Too bad for her that other conservatives will never be reliable allies for her because, even though she identifies with them, they can’t empathize with what she is.
The problem isn’t so much about things becoming problems once they affect a person, it’s often that these people were never exposed to things affecting them personally before they became adults.
I am of the opinion that empathy develops best when people are exposed to life (for this exercise you are welcome to define “life” how you see fit).
While I have not personally been mistreated for my gender or race, and I have never had anybody murdered or abducted in my personal life, I have had a lot of other Bad Things™ happen to me that has developed a healthy sense of empathy. I can then use that empathy and apply it to those other situations. It’s like the analogy of lifting weights can train you to pick up and move heavy things (not just barbells).
People like this have led what I believe to be very sheltered lives. Maybe they were spoiled, never told no, whatever. As far as they ever knew the horribleness of the world only happened to other people (in books, papers, movies, and TV shows), who they were taught were deserving of such things, and that it would never happen to them regardless pf anything.
None of this is meant to excuse anyone’s behavior or lack of empathy. Never would I suggest such a thing. But it may help your sanity in having a possible understanding of how it might happen in the first place.
It may not; I am not presuming to know you or how you will react to anything I’ve just said.
YMMV.
Along the way in life I have met plenty of people who did have the awful things in life happen to them, and yet they still take this position. I have met many people who have been subject to bigotry all their lives, but then an trans person comes into the picture, and they expose themselves to be equally bigoted, and equally without empathy, and just as vicious.
People develop this way because they desperately want to be part of the power holding in-group, not the powerless out-group. So they will have their own out-group of marginalized people, whom they can feel some of that power over.
It could be a lot of things. I have learned that with how the world works there is no one single answer for why people do the things they do. So yeah, it could be ignorance as I suggested, a power grab/sense of belonging like you suggest, and/or something else entirely.
I also think people like this person in the article gets wha they deserve, regardless of why they are the way they are.
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Specifically her ability to marry who she wants, because everything is about her.
Eh. Sounds like the queer version of a “the only moral abortion is my abortion” pro-lifer. It’s kind of a thing over there.
I was ok hating minorities, but when they turned on my fellow lesbians and I, I done got upset!
Jesus fucking Christ these fucking people
Many on the cultural right are forgetting something critical: same-sex marriage doesn’t infringe upon anyone else’s rights. A crucial argument against gender ideology was the infringement on women’s rights. But unlike trans edge cases such as women’s sports or prisons, marriage isn’t a zero-sum issue. There isn’t a finite number of spots on the “marriage team.” My getting married takes nothing away from straight couples.
It’s too bad they’re both too incurious to think for themselves and so media-illiterate that they haven’t read The Handmaid’s Tale… Obviously lesbian couples can be broken up and forced into miserable straight marriages and this is precisely what the right would want to do! (It’s even part of the American past that MAGA wants to return to!)
What a fucking dumbass.
Sucks to suck
They didn’t “turn on” you. They were never on your fucking side to begin with, and you were a goddamn idiot for believing their very obvious and blatant lies to the contrary.
She sounds like a terrible person, friend, and relative. Maybe it’s for the best people left her side. Now the leopards can feast in peace. Never comfort a fascist, racist, transpose, or bigot.
Women who fall for conservatism are a special kind of stupid. They hate us, always. Even though we are the default and half the damn population.
Many will say I should have seen this coming — that the right has and always will be against LGBT rights. And maybe there’s some truth to that. But that just wasn’t my experience. I was met with open arms by this messy coalition of ex-Democrats and lifelong Republicans, many of whom still support me and my right to marry. I found a community committed to reason and truth. Perhaps I’m simply realizing that there are fewer of us than I originally thought. The radical right is on the warpath against liberalism, trampling centrists, libertarians, and reasonable ring-wingers in the process. Ultimately, I don’t regret my decision. I worked toward what I believed — and still believe — to be true. I still oppose radical gender ideology and Critical Race Theory in schools. I still believe that biological males shouldn’t compete in women’s sports or be housed in women’s prisons. But I will not stand by while LGBT rights are legislated away.
Read: “The only rights that should be protected are mine.”
There must be a path to redemption, but this one ain’t on it.
As a 29-year-old lesbian engaged to be married, this turn of events is personal for me. And it may be one I helped contribute to.
No. You absolutey and whole-heartedly helped contribute to it.
I worked toward what I believed — and still believe — to be true. I still oppose radical gender ideology and Critical Race Theory in schools. I still believe that biological males shouldn’t compete in women’s sports or be housed in women’s prisons. But I will not stand by while LGBT rights are legislated away.
Human Rights belong to all humans, you racist TERF.
Reid Newton, from the bottom of my heart: I hope your life goes as well as you treat trans people.
Reid is a true American: it only matters once she herself is negatively affected.
Also even then it’s no reason at all to take a step back and reevaluate how much of the original talking points were bullshit, too.
