Yes~ :3

  • Maven (famous)@lemmy.zip
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    6 days ago

    Ive been told by many people (including my fiance) that the first impression they get from me is that I’m a gentle bottom… and then sex happens and thats very very not true

    • Miisha ♀️@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOP
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      5 days ago

      LOL, that’s really freaking funny 🤣
      I’m pretty sure I’m kinda similar…in day-to-day life, I’m a freaking brat, lol. I’m bitchy, I complain, I talk back to people, I do not follow people’s instructions very much…and then in bed, all my resistance (and free will) melts away and I’m just the most obedient, submissive person ever…
      Funny how that works :3

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        5 days ago

        There’s a real crucial difference between wanting to follow someone’s instructions because you want to make them happy, and being compelled to follow instructions by someone you don’t really care about.

        I would do absolutely anything for my gf without a scrap of complaint, most anybody else gets “fuck that, you can do it yourself, you’re capable”.

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    5 days ago

    I do act like the BF here lol. I wasn’t able to keep my hands off my love in public and in private I’d make sure she’d feel my lust for weeks to come.

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      5 days ago

      As a young adult guy without a father figure that’s autistic and thus always feel even more disassociated from any group - seeing the kind of sociopathic behaviour that is being propagated to men on how to be/act is so fucking filthy and not something I wanted to correlate with at all that I thought I was trans for a part of my life - as in “if this is what is a male, I’m definitely not that”.

      • So there are unfortunately very few things anyone can really have as a valid genuine reaction other than “real” and the like
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        5 days ago

        Exactly. I absolutely agree that the problem isn’t so much that men are inherently evil, but it’s instead society’s expectations of what a man should be and how a man should act. Heck, if I were a trans woman and had to deal with that shit, especially the toxic masculinity part, I’d probably dislike men too.

        And as someone who is trying to become a men, I’ve been struggling for some time to find what makes a man different from a woman, other than all the stuff that has clearly not worked for making that distinction. I think I can barely feel the difference, but I can’t put it into words.

    • Miisha ♀️@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOP
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      5 days ago

      I love men…but somehow I totally get this?? Wtf brain? 😭
      Why do I understand misandry? Why do I find it a valid opinion? Why do I lowkey agree with it?? 😭 /s

      I don’t hate men, at all really. I mostly feel safe and comfortable in their presence and I don’t really fear them. I know that’s very privileged of me…
      But I have moments like that lol