It seems like most of them are into femdom or have some really strange fetishes. Are there really so few guys among them who just want to fuck a woman well? Lol

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    Genuine question: assuming you’re not a bit of a right wing nut yourself, and also not a radtrad… why are you searching for an incel in particular…?

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    Incel is an identity of self-loathing. If youre actually seeking out such a person without all that baggage, I’d drop the “incel” word from your messaging entirely. I say this as someone whose interests brushed against that community from the very beginning

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    I’d imagine fostering a deep hatred of women in an attempt to reject women before they are rejected and assigning blame to others for anything negative in their own lives is bound to allow certain kinks and fetishes to develop.

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    idk about the overlap with incel culture, but any amount of time in online kink spaces should make it obvious that there is a massive explosion of submissive men seeking partners and not nearly enough dominant women to meet demand.

    it’s not really representative of overall demographics, basically survivorship bias at work.

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        They feel they are powerless to ‘attract a mate’. With this stance they put all the power on other, hence the bias you’re experiencing (if this is real and not just a shitpost).

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            No, it’s just bitter loneliness paired with externalizing the problem. Involuntary celibacy - they’d fuck around if only those pesky women were more loose - they feel powerless, thus the need for a dominant partner.

            May I ask, why do you ask? I mean sure, incels are easy prey if you wanna get laid, but I bet they are a hassle.