That’s a great tag, I’m gonna steal it :)

I downvote jokes that punch down on marginalized groups for sure.

There’s ways to shitpost that don’t exclude everyone that isn’t cis male and white.

crying misandry/sexism when they are politely asked to leave a space specifically made for women and femme adjacent folks.

The sigh that emanates from me when I see this reply over and over again is both deep and tired.

Damn, I have the perfect gif for this but Lemmy doesn’t support gifs in comments yet?

Ah, there were quite a few great subreddits I was involved in that were incredibly diverse and friendly. I miss those spaces, though I’ve found a couple of communities on Lemmy with similar feel.

I’ve found Lemmy quite harsh and exclusionary for women, so maybe my experience has just been different than yours.

Piss and stagnant sweat and more.

You’re ignoring how many women, femmes, trans, enbies, and POC are on Reddit.

Reddit’s population size is going to naturally make it way more diverse than Lemmy for a long time still.

Quote where I said I needed to be shown the difference between Biden and Hitler.

Show. Me. Where. I. Said. That.

A particular man’s penis. I realized too late that he didn’t routinely clean under his foreskin.

Been missing seeing you as often after Blahaj went down last week! Good to see you again today :)

Definitely one of the users that make Lemmy a pleasure to be on!!

My favorite is when they acknowledge we live in a patriarchal society, that women are treated worse than men, but we are overreacting or simply imagining men are treating us this way.

Fucking asinine indeed!

I know the solution isn’t giving up and allowing men to say these things out loud with absolutely no push back, so I’m rather prepared to be unpopular on Lemmy hahah

Misogyny is just as rampant here as any online space, it’s a systemic issue, it was not a reddit/4chan-exclusive issue. It existed before and will outlast reddit/4chan until we solve the actual fucking problem: men are both socialized and encouraged to fundamentally disrespect women. They need to do just as much brain-rewiring as we do when we combat our internalized misogyny.

Well said. You’re right - the root of the problem is that the users here are predominately male and that then influences the tone of the space. Without conscious effort it is easy to allow misogyny to flourish.

Again, it’s not just one user here and there. It’s constant. So yes, the admins work hard on banning them, but there’s so many here on Lemmy that are unwilling to respect women.

When I used Reddit, there was a particular humour that had an interesting vibe about it, but the blackout and mod bans had me leave for the fediverse and while I miss that brand of humour, I don’t regret leaving and from time to time I see the seeds of it here.

You also have to remember, this is by comparison a pretty small community and it’s going through growing pains, triggered by regular influx from other platforms.

On the whole, I’m glad I’m here.

I fully agree with you, I enjoy Lemmy more than Reddit for a few reasons. And now that I’ve been here long enough to tailor my subscription feed, it’s great. There’s quite a few thoughtful and interesting users here that I very much enjoy running into from time to time.

There is a feeling that this place is not dissimilar to early Reddit or 4chan and those places had their issues with being predominately male as well. I’m not going anywhere and I’m hoping to help shape this place to be even more welcoming for a larger range of different people.

Or women pointing out rampant misogyny.

Posting a meme like this and volunteering/donating are not mutually exclusive.

People being upset about their government punishing homeless people seems like it’s in the right direction.

You didn’t read further up in that thread, did you?

He had been asked politely several times to read the rules of the community and he threw a fit and name-called instead.

That community is women only.

No, I don’t think I need to shut up in the face of men forcing themselves into spaces where they are not wanted.

Hahahaha considering how many communities you have been banned from, I really really don’t need to give your opinion weight here.

Ah but that doesn’t work when it’s not just a couple of users. The mods in womensstuff have to deal with men forcing themselves in those posts constantly. And I run into these types of misogynistic beliefs much more frequently on Lemmy than I would on Reddit for example. This is the culture that’s been allowed to proliferate here.

Great points! The mastery of a craft is often only bestowed on men in those types of careers.