One of my new friends is/was a cop. Just found out about it. I genuinely believe ACAB, and this news has me conflicted because my new friend seems really cool and super nice. I don’t know him super well yet, though. He’s a big part of this new friend group and I don’t know how to process this and how to deal with the fact he’s a cop.

I don’t want to look past the fact he’s a cop, but I want to stay his friend and stay in this friend group.

Any advice for dealing with this shit?

I can’t talk to my therapist about it until Thursday.

  • Free_Opinions@feddit.uk
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    1 year ago

    I genuinely believe ACAB, and this news has me conflicted because my new friend seems really cool and super nice.

    What you’re experiencing is cognitive dissonance. New information is clashing with your prior beliefs, leaving you with a choice: either update your beliefs or double down and lie to yourself even harder.

    • Susaga@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
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      1 year ago

      The thing is: which belief is the lie? Can cops not be bastards? Or is this guy not as nice as he appears to be?

        • Susaga@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
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          1 year ago

          How can you be so sure that’s the lie? Is that not just your own prior belief? Why do others need to evaluate their beliefs, but yours should only be doubled down on? Is that not cognitive dissonance?