This particular headache happened awhile ago, I’m much better at the vetting process nowadays then I used to be.

Basically remembering to mention that I’m bi before activities happen.

EDITED to add alt text (I’ve only done this a few times (in particular for art I’ve done) so I’m not too good at it with memes)

  • OmegaMouse@pawb.socialEnglish
    58·
    12 days ago

    Why are people so obsessed with creating categories and boxes? Just have sex with people you like lol

    • Sas [she/her]@beehaw.orgEnglish
      17·
      12 days ago

      In general: Because the current status quo is that people assume straight as the default thus we show pride in our sexuality and label it so the following generation knows that it’s ok the not be straight.

      In the context of this meme: gold star gays are weird enough to not consider people gay if they had straight sex in the past even if they realized that they don’t like straight relationships/sex for themselves. So I pay them no mind.

      • OmegaMouse@pawb.socialEnglish
        3·
        11 days ago

        Yeah I guess it’s the difference between inclusive categories (“me and my friends are gay yippeee”) and exclusive (“you have to have had only sex with guys”)

        I’m all for labelling if it’s for pride :3

  • birdwing@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
    32·
    12 days ago

    There’s also platinum star gay people, who never went through the birth canal.

    Also, OP, you might wanna ad alt text.

  • infinitesunrise@slrpnk.netEnglish
    31·
    12 days ago

    Yeah it seems like there’s a shocking amount of “telling people their preferences” in the LGBT community. I had a girlfriend who insisted I wasn’t straight just because she had a penis. As if her getting bottom surgery would have retroactively certified me as straight again.

    Like anyone who tells people something that only that person can know for themself, it’s usually more about their need to be comfortable within some unresolved dissonance they have, rather than wanting to help resolve something for you.

  • JackbyDev@programming.devEnglish
    25·
    11 days ago

    It recently occurred to me that I identify as bi but everyone I’ve dated has been nonbinary. So I’ve never been with a man or woman lol.

  • kartoffelsaft@programming.devEnglish
    23·
    12 days ago

    I swear, a lot of gay dudes just don’t have “bisexual” in their vocabulary. Like they don’t stop to think that maybe “hey, any straight guys around here like the thought of making another man cum?” reads like “hey bachelors, hows the wife doin?” to anyone who knows what words mean?

    Like, I can get there being some fetishization/roleplay around “converting” a straight guy gay. But that’s never the angle. They just use the word straight like they know everyone on earth wants to suck their dick.

    • turdcollector69@lemmy.worldBanned from communityEnglish
      8·
      11 days ago

      There’s crazy pressure to conform.

      It really is like: “If you can’t be straight then be gay but you can never ever cross the lines or be ambiguous.”

      It’s such a stupid and self-limiting way of thinking

  • GreyEyedGhost@lemmy.caEnglish
    8·
    12 days ago

    I dated a bi girl. I didn’t particularly care who she was sleeping with before or after me, so long as she wasn’t sleeping with anyone else while she was with me.

    • krooklochurm@lemmy.caEnglish
      8·
      12 days ago

      I’ve dated monogamous bi women and I’ve dated poly bi women.

      Strong preference for the poly bi women.

      • SCmSTR@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
        1·
        10 days ago

        Besides the obvious ethical issues of somebody polyam dating somebody monog, why do you have a preference?

        • krooklochurm@lemmy.caEnglish
          2·
          10 days ago

          You don’t have to be poly or monogamous. It isn’t an either or thing. I’ve found contentment pursuing a poly life and I’ve found contentment pursuing a monogamous one.

          The idea that you just are one or the other is pretty stupid. There are positives and drawbacks to both.

          I liked the poly women more because there was way, way more group sex. And less insecurity around group sex in general. They were more self actualized about what they liked in women and less insecure about discussing it. More confident sexually. Just my own experience obviously.